Shanay's Bio



Every young girl and women has a positive story about their life. That will help others just like you, to overcome life issues. Let’s help one another to learn that we can trust God with our life. Read More Here

Hit The Delete Button

The other day I was watching Joel Osteen on television and he was talking about deleting negative things people may say about us. A lot of times we accept negative criticism that people say to us like, “you are never going to amount to anything in life; you’re never going to be the person you think you are going to be when you grow up (doctor, lawyer, etc.)”. Read More Here

Dare To Be Different

I’m sure you’ve noticed how different human beings are! We’re all unique. Like the sun, the moon, and the stars mentioned in today’s scripture, God created each of us to be different from one another, and He did this on purpose. Each of us meets a need, and we are all part of God’s overall plan. Read More Here

God Made Us Unique Part 1

I prefer to use the word unique, because it stands out in my eyes. Can you even imagine if God made everybody the same? With the same favorite color, clothes styles, food etc. This world would be really boring. Read More Here

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

When I Grow Up......

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.
                                                                                                                                 Jeremiah 29:11

It’s funny, when we’re little we want to be a doctor, lawyer, teacher, ballerina, dancer etc. As we grow up all of our dreams kind of fade away and we start doing something that we thought we would never do. When I was a little girl I loved playing basketball, and I would always say that one day, when I grow up, I would be play in the WNBA. I played throughout middle school and then finally lost my desire to play even though I was good at it. I still played basketball with my friends, just not on a team. WNBA wasn't one of my main things anymore. Then my desire changed to becoming an artist. I always had the sense of creativity, and that came from my family. Growing up is like being on a roller coaster, one minute you’re turning right and the next you’re going left. We’re always changing in life with new dreams and goals to fulfill.                                                                                        
One thing that has always stuck with me and been a great desire, was growing up and owning a business. I never saw myself working for anyone other than God. When I was 15 I started working for my mom doing childcare; that was my first job. I really enjoyed doing that for 5 years. When I turned 22 I started selling Avon, I always had that entrepreneurship in my blood. Now that I’m in my late 20’s I finally have my life in order and pursuing my own online business. I thank God for directing my life in His path and not my path. There is a reason for me not playing basketball and making it to the WNBA and I have no regrets. I love what God has been doing with “My Unique Girlz”. I never thought I would be a blogger a few years back and making a difference in young people lives. I was always an encourager growing up, but never thought I would be using it to blog to people around the world. Through life experiences never get frustrated on what you want to do with your life. We will always go through different changes until we find the right path that God wants us to go on. No matter how old you are it’s never too late to fulfill your dreams. So be patience and you will find your career path for your life. You will have no regrets either. 

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Battlefield Of The Mind + GIVEAWAY!

As a man thinks so is he.

Battlefield of the mind is a great book, written by Joyce Meyer. When I was a teen my mom bought my sister and I the teen battlefield of your mind. I read that book in two days, that’s how good it is. It teaches you how to speak positive over your mind. You learn how to control your thoughts. A lot of teens and people period, always think bad about themselves and allow their minds get the best of them. As a teen my mind was a battlefield every day. I came to learn to shut out negative thoughts and over power it with positivity. If you haven’t read it I encourage you to do so. It will make a difference in your life.

Now on to the GIVEAWAY!!!

I’m really excited this is My Unique Girlz first GIVEAWAY!!! There will be two winners, that’s right two J.

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Sunday, January 27, 2013

Guest Post: Lesson Two On Love

I'm so glad to have my mom as a guest blogger again. I pray that her message on love will be a blessing to you guys and make a difference in your life.

Hi, my name is Ginny and I am going to be sharing lesson 2 on love.  Before I do, I want to tell you a little about myself.  I am a mother of three great children and grandmother of two wonderful young people.  One of my children is the young lady that started this site. Her name is Shanay and my oldest daughter.  She has such a heart to help others and loves to hear about the victories in your lives.  She also prays for you as well.

One of my favorite scriptures in the Bible is Romans 8:28…I am not going to type it out because I want you all to look it up!  My heart’s desire is to make a difference in the lives of others, especially women, young and older.

The last lesson was about the love of God, and today’s lesson is about loving ourselves.  The two commandments that Jesus left were for us to love God and to love others as we love ourselves.  In order to truly love someone else, you first have to love yourself.  It is impossible to give away something that we do not possess.
The love I am talking about is not self-centered or perverted.  We are to receive the love that God has given us and by doing so, we will then realize that we are valuable and worth being respected. We must first respect ourselves before we can respect anyone else.

Young men and women really need to understand that they need to love themselves so they will not be fooled by false love from other individuals.  If someone tells you that they love you, but then request things of you that are against what you have been taught or is against the word of God, then you need to let that person know, that true love is not conditional. Also let them know that you care enough about yourself that you are willing to wait for the true love that God has for you.  Don’t be duped by the “if you love me you will”… let them know “if you love me you will wait”.

I used to smoke and drink, neither which are good for you.  I thank God for the day when He opened my eyes to quit both.  I did not do either of those things to impress anyone, but I did stop because I know I was worth more than putting poison into my body on a daily basis. Smoking and drinking will not keep you out of Heaven, but it could get you there sooner than you want to go!!!

We are special in the eyes of God and because we are, we need to see ourselves that way.  Don’t look at the things you can’t do, rejoice in the things you can.  We can always learn to do better in areas that are not our greatest right now.  One of the things I say on a daily basis is that: I will never give up, never give out and never give in.  When I say that, I am talking about all the things that try to stop me from enjoying and succeeding in the life God has planned for my life.

Never, and I mean never, allow someone else to define who you are.  If someone says something negative about you, throw it out.  Even if someone praises you, say thank you and continue on.   Give God the glory for the things He is doing in your life, but don’t get a big head because you do something great.  Remember that with God we can do all things, and without Him, we can do nothing. The gifts that God gave you, use them to help others and to give honor to God, but don’t toot your own horn.

I am asking each of you to read 1 Corinthians 13 every day for one month.  Get it into your heart and begin to live it.  Also read Mark 12:30-31, they are the two greatest commandments that Jesus left for us to abide by.

Thursday, January 24, 2013

Success Starts with Your Thoughts

By: Joyce Meyer

We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ.
                                                                                2 Corinthians 10:5

Nobody is successful in any venture just by wishing they would be. Successful people make a plan and talk to themselves about that plan constantly. You can think things on purpose, and if you make what you think about match what you actually want to do, your feelings may not like it, but they will go along. I slept great last night, and when I woke up at 5:00a.m., I didn't feel like getting up. It was so cozy under the fluffy cover, and I felt like staying right there. But I had a plan. I had decided how many hours I would write today, and in order to do that I had to get up. I thought, I am going to get up now, and I got up!
Do you make an effort to choose your thoughts, or do you just meditate on whatever falls into your head, even if it is in total disagreement with what you have said you want out of life? When your thoughts are going in a wrong direction, do you capture them and submit them to Christ as the Bible instructs (see 2 Cor. 10:5)?
I want to encourage you today that good news is you can change. As I have said for years, we are in a war and the mind is the battlefield. We either win or lose our battles based on winning or losing the war in our minds. Learn to think according to the Word of God, and your emotions will start lining up with your thoughts.
If you have had years of experiencing wrong thinking and letting your emotions lead you as I did, making the change may not be easy, and it will definitely require a commitment of study, time, and effort. But the results will be worth it. Don’t say, “I am just an emotional person, and I can’t help the way I feel.” Take control. You can do it!

Trust in Him: Keep your thoughts in line with the plan God has for your life - a plan to prosper you, and not to harm you (see Jer. 29:11). Take control of your thoughts by trusting them to Him.

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Sunday, January 20, 2013

Guest Post: Why I don't Support Teen Dating

I’m really glad to have Christie on My Unique Girlz. When I came across her post about teen dating I really wanted my readers to read this post. Christie agreed to guest post and share her article with you guys.

Christie is a pastor’s wife, an adoptive stay-at-home-mom to a beautiful little girl, a Jesus lover, and a blogger!  She and her husband live in North Carolina where they have been serving in youth/college ministry since 2009.  Christie’s heart is for reaching women, teens, and young adults with the love and truth of Jesus Christ.  She enjoys writing, photography, time with family, and Clemson football!

This blog post has been festering lately.  I have lots to say, but don't know how to say it.  Mainly, I want to say it with grace and conviction.  I worry that I won't do that properly, but I feel like this needs to be shared.

I don't support teen dating because I was a teen dater.

I wish it was that simple!  I wish I could just say, "I did it, don't do it!"

But, it's not that easy...unfortunately.  Q and I are in youth ministry, we see teen hearts get broken all the time and we hate to say, "We told you so." because that isn't the answer.

Let me share my story...a story I've struggled to share.  How much do I share? How open is the Lord asking me to be?  I'm still not sure.  But, here it is...

I started casually dating in middle school and by high school I had my first love.  I dated a guy for three years in high school; we just knew we would get married one day (we didn't!).  By age 15, I'd given my heart to him and I'd fallen into sexual sin.  A downward spiral of dating and sexual sin continued for five years (fiercely consuming at 18), until I gave my heart and life to the Lord at age 20.

Let me just say, none of this sexual sin included my husband.  I'm so thankful for a Godly man that steered me onto the narrow road through the truth and love of Christ.

But, by the time I got married at 21, I had more baggage than anyone would ever need in a life time.  I'd given my heart and body away more than once and each of those interactions adversely affect my marriage -- in ways I'm aware of and in ways I'm not!

Fortunately, I serve a holy God that wiped my slate clean that October night that I said, "Take me Lord, change me, make me whole again." He did and he's done it well.  But, my human nature won't let me forget my past.  A past of deep sin and heartache.

So parents (some of you may be my youth parents...welcome to my story!), when Q and I say we don't support teen dating, this is my reason why.

Teen dating is not biblical -- courtship is.
Teen dating opens the door for raging hormones and sexual temptation -- temptation and sin that will affect your child forever. (1 Corinthians 7:2)
Teen dating does not prepare your child for marriage -- I've never heard anyone say, "I'm so glad I dated as a teen and up until marriage.  Those relationships really improved my God-honoring relationship with my husband."
Teen dating says "Jesus Christ is not enough for me." -- when we put something or someone at a higher priority than the Lord, our relationships suffer; all of them.

Unless your child has their own bank account, their own vehicle, and their own rules...they are not prepared for a deep relationship with another human being.  Until that time, their heart and mind need to be focused on the One who knows exactly whom their lifelong mate will be.

I know everyone's doing it and I know it's hard to be set apart, but the Lord calls us to be different (Romans 12:2)!

Teens and teen parents, please listen to me!  

The minor "life lessons" your teen may take away from a dating relationship are not worth the risk of falling into sexual sin and the affect those sins will have on the rest of their lives.

I understand that some teens may rebel against your rule of "no dating", but the Lord has commanded you to raise them with God honoring principles.  The Lord has commanded you to protect them from and steer them away from sin, not to condone and promote the possibility of it.

Let me tell you, no form of "monitoring" your child's dating relationship will deter two teenagers with raging hormones.  If they want to fall into sexual sin, they will.

But, if your child has been taught from early childhood that the Lord has the perfect mate for them, that waiting for your spouse is God-honoring and holy, and that the years and years of saying no to every member of the opposite sex will be beyond worth it when you can tell your spouse on your wedding night, "I waited for you."

If you don't listen to the naysayers when your child is two -- the one's saying, "We'll see how well that works when she's 16." -- and you continue to instill biblical principles and share the perfect will of the Lord through life lessons and scripture....your children will thank you one day!

Parents, for the sake of your children's physical and emotional health, please say no to teen dating.  Coming from a girl who has the scars to prove's not worth it.

Encourage them to love the Lord their God with all of their heart, soul, mind and strength.

"I believe that the Lord is mighty enough to show us all exactly whom He's prepared for us."

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Celebrate Life

The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I come that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows).
                                                                                                               John 10:10

It is possible to live our lives blandly going through the motions of working, accomplishing, doing, but to never truly enjoy life. This is true of unbelievers as well believers who have not learned to enjoy the life God has given them. Jesus gave us life so we can derive pleasure from being alive, not just so we can go through the motions until He comes back for us or takes us home.
We need to learn how to celebrate in God’s joy, to live life “to the full.” Enjoying life is a decision that is not based on enjoyable circumstances. It is an attitude of the heart, a decision to enjoy everything because everything-even little, seemingly insignificant things has a part in God’s overall “big picture.” Doubt and unbelief are thieves of joy, but simple childlike believing releases the joy that is resident in our spirit because the Holy Spirit lives there. As we believe that is God’s will for us to experience continual joy, we will discover a power that lifts us above our life circumstances. We will be free to leave our problems in God’s hands while we enjoy His blessings.

Lord, I don’t want to miss out on the fullness of joy that You have for me today. Help me to live life to the full and leave my problems in Your care. Amen.

Monday, January 14, 2013

Guest post: Lesson one on Love

By Ginny

This months teaching is about love.  The first one we will be learning about is the most important of all.

Whitney Houston sang a song called “The Greatest Love”. She thought the greatest love was to love yourself.  Yes, that is a great love, which will be in one of the next lessons, but she was slightly mistaken.

The greatest love is the love God has for us.  John 3:16 says that “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life. 

God’s love is so great that He wanted us to be His children! Without Jesus bridging the gap between us and God, that would never ever happen. So, without judging us, and while we were still in our sin, God sent His Son to save us. NOW, that is true love!!
His love did not say, “well, let Me see how good they are; let Me see if they will obey Me; let Me wait until they deserve it”. No, His love is pure and unconditional.  He simply loves us without anything on our part.
God has given us the opportunity to be His children. So many awesome blessings come with belonging to Him. Our reason for receiving His love should not be things, or what else He can do for us, it should be simply because He loved us first.
Jesus loves us so much that He was willing to step out of Heaven, knowing what He was going to endure.  He knew how He would be treated and rejected, yet He did it anyway. THAT is real love.  He took all the sin we would ever commit on Himself.  He took our place! Because God cannot be attached to sin, Jesus had to be separated from His Father.  That had to be even harder for Him, knowing that Him and His Father had to disconnect for a time, so He could make sure we had a chance to be children of God and have the right to multiple blessings and eternal life.  There is no greater love than that.

God bless each of you and I hope you will look forward to the other lessons on love this month.

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Wanted: Guest Bloggers & New Followers

As you know “My Unique Girlz” is a place to share inspiring and uplifting posts that will help others in their everyday life. I want to give my fellow bloggers and readers the opportunity to guest post on my unique girlz. Also share fun facts, recipes and life changing stories. If you are interested please send me an email ( with your ideas, with Guest Blogging in the subject line. Looking forward to hearing from you!

Dear New Followers,

I just wanted to thank you guys for the great comments you are leaving on my post. Thanks for following “My Unique Girlz” and I pray that this blog is encouraging and helping you in your everyday life. I’m always looking forward to reading your post also, they are really good tooJ.

Inside scoop: First Giveaway coming soon! 

Develop Your Gift

For God’s gifts and His call are irrevocable. [He never withdraws them when once they are given, and He does not change His mind about those to whom He gives His grace or to whom He sends His call.]

                                                                                             Romans 11:29

If we don’t develop our potential, it won’t get developed, because no one else can do it for us. Find out what you want to do and began to train yourself for it. If you know you can write great songs, develop your gift; arrange your life so you can write songs. If you know you can lead worship, then practice, learn music, sing with all your mind and heart, and believe. Begin leading worship, even if you start with only you and the cat or you and your children. If you know you have a talent for business, an ability to make money, then study, pray, go to school, and step out.
Whatever your gift and calling, entrust it to the Lord and be relentless in your pursuit of reaching your full potential. In some way we should improve ourselves every day. We should go forward, letting go of what lies behind, including past mistakes and past victories. Even hanging on to the glory of past victories can prevent us from being all God wants us to be in the future. Never be satisfied with being anything less than all you can be.


Lord, I recognize that I am responsible to develop and use the talents You have placed within me. Give me wisdom on the best way to go about it. Amen

Saturday, January 5, 2013

It Is a New Day

Let us then fearlessly and confidently and boldly draw near to the throne of grace (the throne of God’s unmerited favor to us sinners), that way may receive mercy [for our failures] and find grace to help in good time for every need [appropriate help and well-times help; coming just when we need it].
                                                                                                                 Hebrews 4:16

We see from this Scripture the attitude we should live with. Fearless! Confidence! Bold! We cannot ask fearfully and expect to receive. We come in that way because we know with assurance that God is faithful, He is good, and He wants to meet our needs. We don’t need to act as if God is a miser whose arm we must twist to convince Him to help us. He is waiting to hear your cry! Many of the wrong attitudes toward women over the centuries have either changed or they are in the process of being changed. We are sorry for the women who lived in the past and did not know the freedom we enjoy today. We still have a way to go, but as the saying goes, “We’ve come a long way, baby!” It is a new day. There are no hindrances. The door is wide open for you to realize your dreams. Walk confidently into your future and never look back! You go, girl!

Lord, I want to live fearlessly and confidently, knowing that You are faithful and will always meet my needs. Thank You for open doors and a bright tomorrow. Amen

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

New Year, New Beginning

I can’t believe 2013 is here already…. Time goes by really fast. Time is priceless and cannot be earned. What are you doing with your time? Are you making a difference, setting a good example with others and being who God called you to be? This is a time to start fresh… begin with day 01 and write new goals that will make a difference. This is a new year to start over and change things in our lives that need to be changed. This is a new beginning, time to stop bad habits and start good ones. Also be more polite to people even if some of them are rude. Saying please and thank you and even you’re welcome. Good manners make a huge difference in our lives and can take us a long way.  They can open doors that might otherwise be closed. Have more boundaries in your life, don’t allow people to walk all over you. Let your no be no and your yes be yes, but not in a rude way. So let’s start 2013 with a clean slate and be who we are supposed to be in Christ. I pray that you will meet your goals by the time 2013 ends.

My New Year resolution:
Become a better me and learn how to crochet

Happy New Year!!!