Shanay's Bio



Every young girl and women has a positive story about their life. That will help others just like you, to overcome life issues. Let’s help one another to learn that we can trust God with our life. Read More Here

Hit The Delete Button

The other day I was watching Joel Osteen on television and he was talking about deleting negative things people may say about us. A lot of times we accept negative criticism that people say to us like, “you are never going to amount to anything in life; you’re never going to be the person you think you are going to be when you grow up (doctor, lawyer, etc.)”. Read More Here

Dare To Be Different

I’m sure you’ve noticed how different human beings are! We’re all unique. Like the sun, the moon, and the stars mentioned in today’s scripture, God created each of us to be different from one another, and He did this on purpose. Each of us meets a need, and we are all part of God’s overall plan. Read More Here

God Made Us Unique Part 1

I prefer to use the word unique, because it stands out in my eyes. Can you even imagine if God made everybody the same? With the same favorite color, clothes styles, food etc. This world would be really boring. Read More Here

Monday, June 17, 2013

Loving God, Loving Yourself, Loving Others

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud, it does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV)
Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.

1 John 4:8
As I have loved you, so you must love one another.

John 13:34

If we don’t have a revelation of God’s love for us personally, we will never truly love ourselves, and neither can we really and truly love others. Let’s explore the cycle of love.

1. Replace the word Love in 1 Cor. 13 with God or Father. Ask Him a revelation of this scripture. Now describe in your own words how God feels about you.

2. In light of that passage, do you feel loved? How do you feel about yourself, knowing God loves you this way? How can you show yourselves love in a healthy way?

3. How does your revelation of God’s love for you influence your love for others? Can you be obedient to John13:34? Can you love others the way 1 Corinthians 13 describes?

Tip: Take your time with this study and let the Holy Spirit speak to you. Revelation is personal and can’t be rushed. But once you receive it, nothing can take it from you!

Saturday, June 15, 2013

Little Miss Perfect

How a Former Child Star Broke the Cycle of People Pleasing and Found Her Authentic Self

I was born a people pleaser  I came out of the womb pleasing. My mom tells a story about when I was 18 months old and had several styles in one of my eyes. She took me to the doctor and he had to use a needle to pop them, one by one. Not only did I cry, I smiled. It’s a very weird indication from early on that I intuitively knew I needed to be happy for everyone. All “negative” emotions needed to stay suppressed.

I was always strongly encouraged to be and do my best. So it became my number one goal to be the perfect child. I adored my mother and wanted her approval and pleasure. Having that connection was the most important thing, it was terrifying to be at odds or lose that strong connection, so I worked very hard to stay on that narrow road of perfection.

I experienced a connection with my mom as long as I did what was expected of me. However, with my dad, it wasn't possible. Having lost his father as a young boy, he had cut off his emotions at an early age. But as a little girl I thought, if I twirl enough, am pretty enough, sweet enough and good enough, maybe he will notice me.

When I was four years old, I was in this nursery rhyme reciting class.  At the grand finale, after I recited my rhyme, everyone erupted in applause. I caught my dad’s eye in the back of the room and he was smiling… and I thought, Oh my goodness! I think he likes me. As a four-year-old it all made sense: to get the love and acceptance I wanted, I just needed to perform and not just do what’s expected of me, but more than what’s expected , and do it really big and with a smile.

Although I wasn't born shy, I developed into a shy child because it was a way to protect myself from making mistakes. My shyness allowed me the space to process what I needed to do to remain perfect.

When I was 16, I got the part of Blair on the television show “The Facts of Life.” The character of Blair thought she was a princess and God’s gift to the world. She was nothing like me, but ironically, she was really easy to play. Blair was so confident, and there was a part of me that wanted to be more like her. But I would never allow myself to be like her in real life.

I accepted Christ at the age of 10, and for many years my need to be perfect also spilled over into my relationship with Him. I didn't want to disappoint Him, so I would deny emotions that I thought a good Christian shouldn't feel. I didn't know I could invite Him into my dark places – the places I had sealed off. Eventually, I came to a point where I made a mistake that I couldn't get on top of. I either had to cut away from God so He wouldn't see – or let Him in. That’s when I chose to be all that I am in front of Him and then receive and believe His love. Amazingly, He didn't go away or disconnected from me! In fact He didn't drew even closer, and it finally set me free.

Now, I am able to feel angry, afraid, sad – and know that God created me as human, with all my emotions. I know if I’m going to have an intimate relationship with Him rather than just be a robot, I need to feel what I feel. God’s love for me is based on who I think I should be. And if He can love me, then I can love myself.

The key to being who God created us to be is receiving. Not doing and earning. That’s what I hope to share with the women I minister to now. If we can find the courage to tear down the walls we've built around our hearts, not only will we be able to receive God’s healing love for ourselves, we will finally be free to share His love with others. And isn't that what it’s really all about?

Monday, June 10, 2013

Today's Scripture: Love & More

.....he who loves [his fellowmen] is begotten (born) of God and is coming [progressively] to know... God [to perceive and recognize and get a clearer knowledge of Him].

                                                                                                                          1 John 4:7


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Friday, June 7, 2013

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Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Freedom to Be Ourselves

Why are you cast down, O my inner self? And why should you moan over me and be disquieted within me? Hope in God and wait expectantly for Him, for I shall yet praise Him, my Help and my God.

                                                                                                           Psalm 42:5

Ask twenty-first century women, “How do you feel about yourself?” and many will confess, “I hate myself.” Or perhaps their opinion of themselves is not that severe, but they will admit they really don’t like themselves.
Our world has created a false, unrealistic image of what women are supposed to look like and act like. But the truth is that every woman was not created by God to be skinny, with a flawless complexion and long flowing hair. Not every woman was intended to juggle a career as well as all of the other duties of being a wife, mother, citizen, and daughter. Single women should not be made to feel they are missing something because they are not married. Married women should not be made to feel they must have a career to be complete. We must have the freedom to be our individual selves.
Many women hate themselves and have no self-confidence because they have been abused, rejected, abandoned, or in some way damaged emotionally. Women need to experience a revival of knowing their infinite worth and value.

Lord, You know exactly how I feel about myself. You know how deeply I've been influenced by the messages of our culture and how confusing it is. Help me to discover the truth of my worth and value in your eyes. Amen

What are your greatest accomplishments you’re proud of?